Change YOUR Attitude! (Part 1)

A positive attitude can do wonders for the disorganization in your life.  Without one, you will not be able to set your goals, let alone achieve them.  Negativity and a “failure” mentality set the groundwork for a disorganized and unhappy life.  But, how does one go about making such a change in attitude?  Become victorious rather than victimized.

 The reality of life is that you are responsible for YOU.  You get to make choices that affect how you feel about yourself, your family, friends, job, future-everything.  If you don’t like your life the way it is, do something to change it.  It’s ok to do that.  Your life is yours to do with what you want. 

 First, start appreciating yourself.  Growing up, we are all given labels, some nice like smart, funny or good looking, some more negative and unkind.  The negative ones always seem to be the ones people hold on to.  Well, the truth is, we are not what we’ve been labeled.  We are what we think we are and we can be who we want to be.  Nobody gets to choose that for us.  So, every day, look in the mirror and tell yourself aloud all the positive things you can about yourself.  There are more than you think.  You’re smart, you’re a hard worker, you’re a good spouse and/or parent, whatever you want.  They aren’t lies.  They’ve just been overshadowed by a negative self image, one that you are ready to get rid of.  The more you hear it, the more you’ll believe it.

 Now, start appreciating things around you.  When you are feeling bad about yourself, it’s hard too look around and appreciate the good things in life.  You feel victimized by the world and maybe wonder why everyone else seems to have it so good except you.  The truth is, it’s all in how you see life.  You’ve got a lot to be thankful for.  If you have trouble thinking of things to appreciate and be thankful for, start with the comfy bed you rolled out of this morning, or the warm shower you took, the car that gets you from point A to Point B, the clothes you’re wearing.  There’s just so much people take for granted, but if you take time to appreciate what you have, your outlook will change and you’ll soon notice that you have more and more and that you are a “have” not a “have not”.

 Commit a random act of kindness at least once a week.  Pay for someone’s cup of coffee, or let someone cut in front of you in traffic.  Hold the door for someone.  Do anything, just do it on purpose.  Doing something nice for someone else takes the focus off yourself and, honestly, makes you feel good. 

 Probably everyone has heard that saying “You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else.”  As cliché as that is, it is true.  Having a positive self image is key to getting everything else in your life to fall in place.