Who Controls You??

There have been many times that I’ve heard teens say something like this: “Aw man, I hate that girl, she’s bad mouthing me and I’m gonna kick her A-double-S!’  Or “That kid is always picking on me I just want to punch him!”  It’s not just teens, either, it’s adults too, but teens are what’s on my mind at the moment. 

What I wonder is how you think punching someone will make things better.  Maybe for a few minutes you might feel like your the strongest, (big deal) but what if you really hurt them?  What if they fall and whack their head and they die?  Is fighting over “mean words” worth the possibility of jail time?  Are you going to beat everyone up that says something bad about you?  Because if so, you’re going to have a long, hard road ahead of you.  Ask yourself this…are the words true?  If yes, why bother fighting over the truth, if not then ask yourself why their opinion even matters.  They’re just doing it to get to you.  And personally, I believe that people who pick on other people do so because they feel bad about themselves and putting you down makes them feel like they’re “better.”  Clearly, they are not.  Unless, of course, you let them be.

I mean, being picked on isn’t fun. I know, I was a teen once and, unfortunately, it even happens to adults.   I’d even venture to say no one escapes being teased.  But, when you get angry about some name calling , you’ve given that person control over YOUR emotions.  You’ve given them the POWER to make you mad.  Personally, I don’t like ANYONE having that control over me.  I like to control me.  So, whenever someone says or does something mean to me, I get to choose how I want to react.  So I say fight with your mind, not your fists.  Control yourself, don’t let others control you.  And, walk with pride knowing that the bully is really much worse off than you, and secretly, everyone knows it–even the bully.

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